Tuesday, July 17, 2007
My friend and I were discussing the first article on Maldivian Critique and he was being a trifle vehement on the fact that Maldivians, as humans should have the right to have sex with each other as long as both of them have each other’s consent just as in the declaration of human rights.
I was fighting on the basis of Morality, telling him what the country would be like if there was the absolute ruling of Human Rights.
“There would be utter turmoil!” I exclaimed. “Think about it! Hookers, nightclubs, discos, drinking and gambling!” He explained.
I just couldn’t get his logic. I felt his vehemence was fuelled by his carnal and undeveloped desires. And he’s usually at the frontline of cutting edge technology and other advancements.
To an evolved mind that can understand the intricate workings of philosophy and poetry, all such lascivious and bodily amusements would be repulsive. Sure, sex is good and clean when you are with the one you are going to be able to love and care for well into the future.
And then there is a right to privacy. What if the entire country was having sex, drinking and smoking pot and doing everything that you stand against, right on the streets?
The declaration sure doesn't stop us from having sex on the streets. No, that's left to the Penal Code of the country.
According to Wikipedia, The Universal Declaration of Human Rights has come under severe criticism from islamic countries... and these countries have been praised for their strict compliance to the human rights... those who have adopted the islamic law in their states anyway.
But then, I do have a sense of principles that knows what is right and what isn’t, as do everyone else. Do we really need to have a tough Penal Code?
The declaration is incomplete when it is viewed in terms of Morality and Freedom. All I wonder is, where would Homosexuals fit in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights?
Thursday, July 12, 2007
So, he starts off on rocky footing... confused whether the article is sexist or not.
1. Discrimination based on gender, especially discrimination against women.
2. Attitudes, conditions, or behaviors that promote stereotyping of social roles based on gender.
American Psychological Association (APA):
sexist. (n.d.). The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition. Retrieved July 12, 2007, from Dictionary.com website: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/sexist
Oops... better check again. It is sexist :-)
About Guys denying the fact that they're virgins, I have not conducted a poll, but if I were to, I would guess somewhere around 70% of the unmarried youth of this country have had sex, which of course, is illegal. Why do people want to have illegal sex? Haven't we got enough entertainment here in this country already?
Popular Culture. Peer Pressure.
A thought pops up, however. A disturbing amount of married men also claim that they have extramarital sex. Women, if your husbands are going off abroad, I suggest buying yourself a ticket too. What about the guys who get married, for the sake of maintaining appearances... i.e., gay men?
Oh, by the way, guys just don't say to girls that they're virgins... who would want to get into the pants of an inexperienced greenhorn?
It is rather unfair to label virgin guys as depressed, geeky or gay. There are innocent guys in this country, although you might as well keep them in a confined area and keep them in there, according to the comments to this article. What good would that do?
About women, I would refer to the paragraphs above. There are women who have had illegal sex, and there again lies a disturbing thought. I cannot classify anyone without polling, and based on the feedback from colleagues and friends, I would range from 20% to as much as 40% of the country's youth.
Which means, any innocent guy can find hordes of virgin women, but do be careful.
The true story he relates via this article paints a rather grim picture of our society. The worst part is that none of the commenters realized that this isn't really something that you can read, feel, and then forget. You cannot fold your hands and say, "Such is the hypocrisy of the human nature."
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Is there a solution to the rampant sexual misbehaviour of the youth of Maldives? Is it a fault of popular advertisement campaigns: "Fight AIDS, use condoms"? Why do we need condoms if we are having sex with our wives? We do marry after doing the necessary screening for HIV and Hepatitis A and B, right?
We cannot change others. We can only change ourselves. Being in Love doesn't mean you have to have Sex, remember?
And yes girls, stay away from guys who "love" you. Just think about Fareedha, and her lovely nick.